mo' power to the introvert!

Growing up a secret introvert was tough given the fact that it appeared as if every other family we were friendly with had kids that were gifted and comfortable with public displays of their talents. I despised the encounters we had with some of these families because each time we met or communicated something else would crop up which shadowed my achievements. I find it a reoccurring occurrence with immigrated Indian families, when at the parents' relentless behest the children have to do something they aren't prepared to do, and I believe this often times has to do with adults wanting to live vicariously through their kids. My own parents have pushed me oft times to participate or get involved with activities that don’t take into consideration my interests or my preferences.

It can be very discouraging when your parents can’t accept the fact that you’re an introvert and don’t understand that it’s not a problem or an excuse to live a more secluded life. It’s an orientation sometimes not of our choosing (studies show the brain and genes can be born with these inclinations), a lifestyle of which we get accustomed to and are comfortable with, not us simply being or becoming complacent with a simpler standard of life like some may believe. We introverts aren’t asocial or anti-social as my mom puts it, and we aren’t morose or miserable loners. Understand that we have different needs and preferences from extroverts; our mental maintenance is an altogether different undertaking that is usually resolved in an independent state away from crowds and people. Our contributions to society may be more subtle and very likely overlooked but recognize this, we are as ambitious as anyone else. Don’t disregard us because our ambitions lead us elsewhere or to less elevated designations.