Assalamualikum Friends,
Someone once said, “You’re born with family, but, friends you get to choose”. As humans, we are all social creatures and can not live in social solitude. Friends fill an important void. They make us laugh, give us a hand and share everything with us.
But, friends, after all, are strangers and not all of them are who they claim to be. I don’t wish to sound paranoid, but, it’s true. I’m sure all of you have had people in your life that you would give the world for, only to find out that they don't have the same in mind for you.
Then there are those people who are caring friends, but don’t realize that they are leading you down a wrong path.
Ahh friends. I've got 600 of them on Facebook.
But, how can you tell whose worthy of being called a true friend? Facebook has become this generation's social medium for the popularity contest. It's not in the halls of high school anymore, and it's not in the brand names you wear. Even the quietest kid in your class can turn out to have the loudest Facebook profile, and the coolest double life.
The new applications (News feeds, and comments and the "Like" button) all seem to make us crave more friends who will comment on more pictures who will write more wall posts which will bring more friends who will comment on ...
Someone else once said: "Lord, protect me from my friends. I can take care of my enemies." (Voltaire, French philosopher and writer).
He wasn't talking about Facebook, but it certainly does apply. The vicious social game that Facebook can inspire is never-ending, and completely deceptive. Facebook and other online social networking sites have the ability to project a false image of yourself as you wish to be seen, and not necessarily as you exactly are.
So, for that reason I’ve come up with some criteria for selecting friends. Real friends, not just an FB friend.
Common ground
o They share your thoughts and your interests
Respect
o They respect you for who you are
Sharing is Caring
o What is theirs is yours
Love
o They honestly seek the best for you and wouldn’t want any harm upon you
Morals
o They’ve got their ideals in line
The fine print here is that all these points should be present in the person you want to befriend. Even four out of five is not good enough. And no, these points don’t mean you’re seeking out your twin. You need not be carbon copies of each other. If all five criteria apply you have found your BFF. And remember friendship is a two way street. You should also exemplify these points within yourself for your friend.
Now, go and weed out your FB friends list!
Someone once said, “You’re born with family, but, friends you get to choose”. As humans, we are all social creatures and can not live in social solitude. Friends fill an important void. They make us laugh, give us a hand and share everything with us.
But, friends, after all, are strangers and not all of them are who they claim to be. I don’t wish to sound paranoid, but, it’s true. I’m sure all of you have had people in your life that you would give the world for, only to find out that they don't have the same in mind for you.
Then there are those people who are caring friends, but don’t realize that they are leading you down a wrong path.
Ahh friends. I've got 600 of them on Facebook.
But, how can you tell whose worthy of being called a true friend? Facebook has become this generation's social medium for the popularity contest. It's not in the halls of high school anymore, and it's not in the brand names you wear. Even the quietest kid in your class can turn out to have the loudest Facebook profile, and the coolest double life.
The new applications (News feeds, and comments and the "Like" button) all seem to make us crave more friends who will comment on more pictures who will write more wall posts which will bring more friends who will comment on ...
Someone else once said: "Lord, protect me from my friends. I can take care of my enemies." (Voltaire, French philosopher and writer).
He wasn't talking about Facebook, but it certainly does apply. The vicious social game that Facebook can inspire is never-ending, and completely deceptive. Facebook and other online social networking sites have the ability to project a false image of yourself as you wish to be seen, and not necessarily as you exactly are.
So, for that reason I’ve come up with some criteria for selecting friends. Real friends, not just an FB friend.
Common ground
o They share your thoughts and your interests
Respect
o They respect you for who you are
Sharing is Caring
o What is theirs is yours
Love
o They honestly seek the best for you and wouldn’t want any harm upon you
Morals
o They’ve got their ideals in line
The fine print here is that all these points should be present in the person you want to befriend. Even four out of five is not good enough. And no, these points don’t mean you’re seeking out your twin. You need not be carbon copies of each other. If all five criteria apply you have found your BFF. And remember friendship is a two way street. You should also exemplify these points within yourself for your friend.
Now, go and weed out your FB friends list!
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