It seems like a fallacy doesn't it?
It probably does, dear reader, ignite in you a certain feeling of rage. How dare I even attempt to relate this paradigm of modesty, this cloth of subservience to the one true God, this symbol of piety to something so base as one's sex.
But that is what it is about, my dears; protection and distinction of one's sex.
We cover our heads why- because Allah Ta'ala told us.
And for some of you that is enough. Khayr, good for you.
But there is nothing wrong with asking questions, asking for deeper insights. Some of you argue against that- I say the act of questioning allows you to love this faith even more. For how can you truly love something if you can not even understand it?
So the question I'm trying to ask here: can a practicing Muslim woman be feminine and beautiful?
The idea of the hijab is to downplay your sex, not to oppress it. But to merely show shame and modesty in front of men who by all accounts are a little more…shall we say…eager when it comes to pursuing the opposite sex.
But it doesn't necessarily mean it's a rejection of femininity, that to wear hijab is to forgo the fact that you are a woman entirely.
So we have this generation of young Muslim women who are very into their deen, who want to be the best Muslimati they can be, who strive to please Allah. And what can I say to that but MashAllah! God is truly great.
Yet at the same time I see plenty of these women walking down the street resembling nothing more than dark bundles of frumpy cloth- unironed, unkempt. And if you'll forgive the allusion- deluded in their belief that dressing in hoodies and shapeless black shirts is a good thing.
I strongly believe that women were created as women so as not to be hidden away; but to be women. That is to be strong, passionate, pious and yes- beautiful individuals.
So when I see Muslim women dressed in such clothes, as a Muslim woman, I am annoyed. Because this, to me, is an alteration of Allah's creation. He, Subhanahu, has made women to be beautiful, to be desirable. Not for the public at large- but for our private lives. Yet at the same time, just because we're not meant to be flashin' our "wares" to men on the street, we also shouldn't be lurking around in such unkempt and manly clothing.
Dress beautifully, just with due diligence. Wear your modest clothing- but don't forget that you are a woman. Iron your clothes, wear clothes your size, and embrace your femininity.
See what I find most challenging is that notion of the frail little Muslim woman whose shy and quiet. I myself am not necessarily shy or quiet. I am reserved when I need to be; however by and large I am confident in who I am, I speak with ease to both men and women. Some frown on this and others like me, construing this as flirtation. But this is my nature- I'm not deliberately attracting attention to myself. I'm just being myself . I am polite, but also friendly.
Nothing wrong with that.