I don’t want to get all sappy or corny, and I do recognize that disagreements and arguments are a part of healthy relationships, but very often we see these small arguments escalating into large-scale wars. Family politics between relatives, hatred between siblings—particularly when they’re older and married into separate families, and most importantly, disrespecting one’s parents are all grave issues in our community. The West is more focused on the individual, while Eastern cultures are more family oriented on the whole. Living in the West puts us in a place where we have to balance the value systems of both worlds and recognize what’s important and how dearly we need to value what we’ve been blessed with.
All relationships hold their own significance and level of importance, but above all, the fact that we have people that we can call family is the greatest blessing of all. In many places around the world people are separated from family members loved ones involuntarily. They may lose them as a result of war, poverty, oppressive regimes or other external circumstances. A great majority of us are blessed, Alahamdulillah, to have our families with us, and have them support us through good times and bad. There is no doubt about the fact that we fight with those we love and care about, but we need to keep in mind that it is important to never let our egos get in the way. We are often deeply offended by a comment one may make, or gossip that one spreads about another, but we have to realize that we are the adults of tomorrow. We are going to be responsible for raising the next generation of children to grow up in this world, and we need to learn from the mistakes that we’ve seen around us.
Our time in this duniya (world) is temporary and we constantly need to make the most out of it. We often realize the importance of things once they are gone, but once people leave this world, it is impossible to bring them back. Let’s cherish our time with our beloved families, thank Allah swt for blessing us with what he has given us, a little or a lot, and realize that we have much more than most around the world. We need to start by spreading love and maintaining healthy relationships at home before we can get out on a global scale and make a difference in this world.
The Prophet (s.a.w.) said, “The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best amongst you to my family.” –Tirmidhi.