It often seems like parents don't seem to want what's best for you, despite the common adage. They want what's best for the family's honour, or what's simplest for them to comprehend.
Despite the differing factors in each family, one thing appears constant. We fight with our parents and they fight with us because, despite everything, we love them. And we keep fighting because we really do want to find common ground, and we do want to build a relationship on strong foundations.
But, in heated moments, we should always remember the prophet's hadiths regarding the respect we must owe to parents.
It says in the Holy Quran that we must always speak to them with respect and kindness, even if we disagree:
Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: My Lord! Bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood. (Quran 17:23)
Remember always that Paradise is at a mother’s feet, and being dutiful to our parents will grant us Paradise.
Abu Huraira reported Prophet Muhammad (SAW) as saying: Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: God's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (because he has been undutiful to them).
And in closing, think of these words that the Prophet dictated about how to honour our parents after their passing:While we were with Prophet Muhammad of God, a man of Banu Salmah came to Him and said: Apostle of God is there any kindness left that I can do to my parents after their death? He replied: Yes, you can invoke blessings on them, forgiveness for them, carry out their final instructions after their death, join ties of relationship which are dependent on them, and honour their friends. (Abu Dawood)
So in death and in life, pray for forgiveness on their behalf, but also, forgive them yourself. Forgive them their shortcomings - as they are only humans like yourself - and their inability to understand your life.